"Do you want to be right? Or do you want to be loved?" I think this quote is from Marianne Williamson's book, "A Return to Love", but I believe I've read it in Wayne Dyer's books as well. No one likes to be proved wrong. And it's difficult to show love or acceptance to someone who just basked in their own self-righteousness while making you feel small and unworthy. Or pointed out your faults. Or shined a light on your ignorance. This can and often does backfire. Law of Karma.
Ideally, I want both. I want to be right, and I want to be loved - or at least liked. Or admired. Or respected. Or just plain old acknowledged. So many times in my life I have put up my dukes, in a manner of speaking, and fought to prove that my way, opinion, or feeling was the right one, therefore, the other party must be wrong! I can attest to the fact, many times over, that this leads to even more feelings of unworthiness. No one wins in this type of controversy.